Saturday, 13 June 2009
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Self-control
How do you control yourself, when you really want to do something that you know would be catastrophic?
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You will need to be more specific.
Oh, I just do it, the results are hilarious.
@Drakonskyr - LOL if you knew the situation I was in, you TOTALLY would do it. But some of us do have the ability to delay gratification, no matter how hard it would be.
@la_faerie_joyeuse - Actually, I go less for personal gratification situations, and more for mayhem-inducing situations.
It's a chaos thing, really.
specifics would be nice... i say hold back for the greater good... or for a future bliss if you can... sometimes instant gratification isn't good because it leads to future catastrophe. If you hold on and delay this, sometimes the passing of this can lead to future bliss... it's like passing of 50 cents for 1000000 dollars... or something like that...
Control is not always the "best" thing, but then I guess you need to evaluate the "result" before you jump in
Do something equally as catastrophic but completely unrelated... like nine Chipotle burritos in a day.
Ka-pow.
It's difficult to say, without any idea what the nature of the situation is. But generally speaking...by remembering how catastrophic it would be. Self-control is, in essence, resisting insecurity. Short-term impulse is the domain of the ego, which, if left unchecked, will betray you in the long run. Calm down, think clearly. Identify your options, and make rational predictions about the outcome of each.
It all depends on what the something is!
I distract myself until the craving passes, and if that doesn't work, I drink.
I guess I don't really have an answer for that. I know that I somehow stop myself from doing (some) crazy things... but it's like an intense inner struggle between the want-to-do-it part and the don't-want-to-do-it part and I guess I get caught up in the adrenaline and forget.
I am too chicken shit to do things like that most of the time. I find self-control to be something I am constantly working on and I like to be able to control myself, not to feel like a victim of situations or living in a world where my actions are chaos.
The problem is sometimes you need to take that jump and throw caution to the wind because amazing things can happen.... or it could all blow up in your face.
Good question!
Ask me in 5 months... just (sort of) kidding. Its really just a mind game, you have to be on top of you situation constantly, assessing and reassessing what at that moment is the most beneficial decision to make.
Do it anyway. You only live once, and might as well die early before the Old sets in.
You answered in your question.
It depends on whether I KNOW it would be catastrophic, or whether I just suspect it MIGHT be catastrophic.
@GunStarHero1988Â - That's the freaking truth.
I'm with dragonskyr ... you don't control yourself, and then pick up the pieces later.
What harm could it really do?Don't let yourself get to that point of no return. When you start thinking, "I shouldn't be doing this," you should be saying, "No," or whatever phrase is appropriate for the situation. Don't wait 'til you're at the, "Oh man I can't believe I'm doing this," stage - it's way too late then :-\
You get into your right mind and you watch yourself wanting something that you know would be self-destructive. For some people that means holding hands with Jesus, and asking to borrow his glasses, and watching yourself doing whatever it is. The bottom line is that resisting the thought and fighting it makes it stronger. Asking the help of Jesus, Quan Yin, or whoever you are in the habit of keeping around for those occasions, dissipates the attraction, because you realize the cost, until one day you just don't want it any more, for the attraction is gone.
I hate that.
Redirection. I try to do something to get my mind off of it or think about something completely different.
I usually don't control myself.
It depends. I lack self control if I feel helpless somehow or like something is deeply wrong. I try to think my way around it at first, but I'll usually sit on the ground and start screaming (not literally) if things look completely dark and like I'm going towards disaster. Well, usually if I'm just pulling myself down, I'll go, but I hate dragging other people with me! That's when I actually lose control. I've not had a life where I can control very much, so I've thrown myself "to the wind" a bit out of desperation. I'm tired. Actually, that's the good thing about finally being a full-blown adult now. I am responsible for everything now, and I can start building instead of constantly meeting the demands of others and their failures.
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